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Erev Shabbos / candle-lighting

Tea or Mincha First?

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, pp. 160-161, no. 39

R. Yekusiel Golodetz also told me:

R. Yitzchak Yoel Ro­folovitz9 from Kre­menchug was ar­gu­ing with the above­men­tioned R. Shmuel Gu­rary late one Fri­day af­ter­noon. “We need to drink tea, ” he said, “and daven Min­cha — which should we do first?” The Rebbe passed by then, and they told him what they were dis­cussing.

“If you want to drink tea in a re­laxed man­ner, ” the Rebbe told them, “you should daven Min­cha first. But if you want to daven Min­cha in a re­laxed way, you can drink the tea first. ”

  1. The rov of Kremenchug, a chossid of the Rebbeim Maharash, Rashab and Rayatz. At the end of his life he moved to Eretz Yisroel. ↩
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The Blue Teakettle Between the Cushions

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, p. 176, no. 63

R. Pin­chas, the son of R. Eliyahu Chaim [Al­thoiz] (may G-d avenge his blood), told me what he heard from the Rebbe Ray­atz: “Late one erev Shab­bos af­ter­noon in Lubav­itch, my fa­ther gave in­struc­tions to bring him the large blue teaket­tle, and he, him­self, placed it be­tween two cush­ions.

“R. Asher, the shochet from Niko­layev, was there on that Shab­bos, and when my fa­ther fin­ished say­ing Chas­sidus he in­structed R. Asher to come to the Shab­bos ta­ble. My fa­ther told him to make Kid­dush over liquor, wash his hands for Hamotzi and eat a kaza­yis of chal­lah. Then he in­structed him to drink all the tea in the ket­tle.

“Af­ter­wards my fa­ther told me that Asher had been think­ing of fast­ing from Shab­bos to Shab­bos — but how can one de­cide that uni­lat­er­ally? So he de­cided to travel to Lubav­itch [to ask the Rebbe]. He came to me and told me that he had al­ready fasted through Wednes­day, so I in­structed him to com­plete the fast. ”

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Purim on Friday: Kiddush Before Maariv in Leningrad

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, pp. 227-229, no. 45

It was Purim in Leningrad — 5686 (1926), I think — and it came out that year on Fri­day. It was get­ting late and they asked the Rebbe to make Kid­dush be­fore Shab­bos Maariv13 so he could far­breng. But the Rebbe de­murred. When they im­plored him, he said, “It is not ap­pro­pri­ate for you to want this, ” and told a story about his fa­ther, the Rebbe Rashab:

One Sim­chas Torah in Lubav­itch — he men­tioned the year — was on a Fri­day, and when it be­came late and time to make Kid­dush, my fa­ther said, “Al­though it is writ­ten that at least one per­son in this world must con­duct him­self in ac­cord with Kab­balah and, ac­cord­ing to Kab­balah, one should not make Kid­dush be­fore Maariv, nev­er­the­less, I’m not alone — there are great rab­bis, there are ‘gute Yid­den’” — and he made Kid­dush be­fore Maariv. On Sim­chas Torah, 5680 (1919) — a Fri­day — my fa­ther also made Kid­dush be­fore Maariv, but af­ter Yom-Tov he told me, “It pains me greatly that I made Kid­dush be­fore Maariv.”

“So, ” con­cluded the Rebbe, “It is not ap­pro­pri­ate for you to want this. ”

When they fin­ished dav­en­ing Maariv, peo­ple thought that the Rebbe would con­tinue the far­bren­gen, but his son-in-law, the Rashag, came out of the Rebbe’s room and re­lated his words: “Just as af­ter Ne’ilah all of the su­per­nal lights of Yom Kip­pur de­part, so, too, when we dav­ened Maariv now and en­tered Shab­bos, all of the lights of Purim de­parted and it is al­ready Shab­bos. ”

And the food that was left over from Purim be­came the Melaveh Malkah af­ter Shab­bos. The Rebbe sat at the ta­ble, but no mat­ter how per­sis­tently they asked him to say Chas­sidus, he was silent. R. Meir Sim­cha of Nevel even com­plained, “It’s a Poil­isher tisch…”14 — but noth­ing helped.

  1. I.e., to poress mapa (spread a cloth over the meal) and make Kiddush. ↩
  2. I.e., with few words of Torah. ↩
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The Crown of Our Head Has Fallen

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, p. 337, no. 35

My zeide passed away at four in the morn­ing on erev Shab­bos Kodesh, the fifth of MarChesh­van, 5679 (1918). We stood there through­out the night as he turned from side to side, hold­ing his yarmulke on his head, not let­ting it fall. As his soul de­parted my fa­ther cried out to us, “The crown of our head has fallen,”19 and so he wailed in an­guish for six hours un­in­ter­rupt­edly.

May his merit guard us and all Is­rael.

  1. Eichah 5:16. ↩
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Reb Aizel Lit the Shabbos Candles Himself

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, p. 292, no. 17

On erev Shab­bos Reb Aizel would per­son­ally light can­dles in his room.

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A Petack Is Not Money, But Suffering Is Precious

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, p. 346, no. 46

I heard from my zeide that Rebbe Michel of Zlotchov26 gave his stu­dents their Shab­bos ex­penses ev­ery Fri­day morn­ing. It would be prefer­able, they told him once, to give it to them on Thurs­day. “Good, ” he told them. “I’ll ask. ” Af­ter­wards he told them, “They an­swered me from Above: A petack (c o i n) is not money, but suf­fer­ing is pre­cious. ”27

  1. A disciple of the Baal Shem Tov and the Maggid of Mezritch. ↩
  2. Although he could arrange for the money a day earlier, their distress and humility over their circumstance was treasured in Heaven. ↩
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The Seudas Hodaah in Leningrad

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, pp. 270-272, no. 113

The Rebbe ar­rived in Leningrad on Fri­day, the 15 th of Tam­muz. Be­fore Kab­balas Shab­bos he gave the hand­writ­ten text of HaGomel to his son-in- law, R. Shmaryahu Gu­rary, to be stud­ied be­fore Kab­balas Shab­bos. Eliyahu Chaim re­lated that when he asked whether there would be Chas­sidus on Shab­bos, the Rebbe replied that “they are giv­ing me one Shab­bos. ”4

A Kid­dush was held on Shab­bos. The Rebbe’s dav­en­ing ex­tended to a late hour and we heard through the white door that he dav­ened with the ni­gun of Avinu Malkeinu.

At the ta­ble he said, “This is the Seu­das Ho­daah,” and a num­ber of times dur­ing the far­bren­gen he re­peated the words, “This is the Seu­das Ho­daah” — for here, in Leningrad, the Rebbe said the bracha of HaGomel.

Ev­ery­one was sur­prised at this, for the con­ven­tional ap­proach ( daas baalei ba­tim) would have been for him to say the bracha in Kos­trama, par­tic­u­larly since we knew what had hap­pened — as the Rebbe him­self said — that events un­folded “above to be­low, ” namely that the orig­i­nal de­cree was death, which was then com­muted to ten years in Solovki5 — as stated in the of­fi­cial records — and re­duced af­ter­wards to three years of ex­ile in Kos­trama.

  1. See Negaim 3:3. ↩
  2. I.e., ten years’ hard labor at Solovki, an island near the Arctic Circle. ↩
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Shtreimel and Maivir Sedrah After the Mikveh

As I Heard Them, Vol. 1, pp. 178-179, no. 66

When I was in Ros­tov on the sec­ond of Nis­san 5695 (1935) on be­half of Anash in Leningrad, one of the Rebbe Rashab’s at­ten­dants, Shmuel Mendel39 the son of Yechiel the meshu­lach, told me, “I saw some­thing that none of you have ever seen. On erev Shab­bos, af­ter im­mers­ing in a mikveh, the Rebbe would put on a shtreimel and re­view the weekly Torah por­tion with Ara­maic trans­la­tion (maivir se­drah).”

  1. He was a student in Tomchei Temimim and the Rebbe's attendant in Rostov. ↩
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